Such poor and unfortunate "victims" (story) Automatic translate
“Listen, how can you communicate with her?” She is so boring and intrusive.
- Yes, I’m already used to it. At first I felt very sorry for her. Everything is complicated with her. The husband works as a shift, and for months she remains alone without male attention. It is difficult, especially at her age.
“And what is her age?”
- She is 40 years old. Hormonal surge. In general, I am afraid that she will “go to the side” somewhere.
- You something. This is her surge and her life. Let him do what he wants. She actually has a son. It would be better if she did it.
- Her son is also complicated - a little egoist. Turns his mother around, and she goes on all his tricks. First grader, and so brazen. I don’t know what she will do with him as a teenager.
Her mother is that lady who is offended by life. Everything is wrong with her. She just hates her husband.
At first I tried to somehow help her, at least in what I was thinking. She offered books on psychology and on raising a child. She gave her advice on how to communicate with her son. She does not accept anything. Everything does not suit her. I even developed a plan of action for her. I say, let’s solve the problems in order. You can’t fix everything right away, you have to act gradually. You know, she listens carefully, agrees, but does nothing.
Apparently she likes everything and everything suits her. She refers to the complex nature of mom and the absence of a husband. So earlier, I felt sorry for her until I realized that she was a “victim” in life. Here are the "executioners" and surround her: mother, young son, husband, and I also joined this list.
“Are you also an executioner?”
- How else. She herself requires all to torment her, not even suspecting it. This is her natural behavior. I used to listen to her, worried about her. She says her mouth does not close. I really didn’t want to meet her and once again listen to how her husband was talking to her, how my mother was yelling at her and how her son was mocking her. And I know her stories by heart.
I did my best: I explained to her about the “victim” and the “executioner”. He doesn’t want to do anything. So now I, too, have become an "executioner." My conscience is clear. What she wanted was what she got.
She begins to tell me about her son, I answer her, they say, she’s to blame, I told you what to do. She is about mom, I tell her again that she is to blame. I would have rented an apartment with my husband a long time ago and lived separately. She begins to complain about her husband, I cut her off.
You know, it seems to me that she enjoys my harshness. She just bashes in it. Once again, poor and unhappy, she begins to feel sorry and build herself into a “victim”.
No, there will be no second time. She will not receive sympathy from me anymore.
- Wow! But you look so calm, you can’t say anything rude.
- But I don’t say rude words and I don’t call her in any way. Just abruptly cut it off. That’s all. If they talked to me like that, I would stop talking to such a person. And she, on the contrary, calls me constantly. We bring children to the same school, thank God, in different classes. She’s good, you understand. She is on her own wave.
But I learned to talk with obsessive people.
“You say so, as if you have a lot of them.”
- No longer. Some simply stopped talking to me, and I won’t say that it’s unpleasant for me. Others have changed.
It is at first glance they are so poor and unhappy. In fact, they are insidious. Climb on your head, and you will not notice. And they can sit there for a very long time. You will not have your own life. You will live their problems and troubles.
We must be able to stop in time. I did it. It has become easier.
- You have changed.
“Yes, which I am very glad of.”