The plan of a traditional Russian wedding Automatic translate
Fortunately, a wedding is an event that does not fall like snow on your head. Typically, a marriage proposal is preceded by a romantic candy-bouquet period, eloquently telling the closest circle of lovers that you may very soon have to experience all the charms of a wedding hassle.
Any wedding is unique. And its organization depends entirely on the desire and taste of the young. Someone prefers not to depart from modern traditions, and someone decides to make the most important day of their life especially original, celebrating a wedding, for example, somewhere in nature with friends, or organizing in a folk style, or going to some exotic a place.
Here we tried to collect everything you need to know to organize a wedding. Wedding celebration is a tradition in itself. And what more to take into account - old wedding customs or modern wedding scenarios, of course, you decide. We will state everything briefly, in order and without unnecessary words.
Happy and beautiful holiday to you!!!
Matchmaking is a crucial event when the chosen matchmakers make an official offer. In the old days, the problem of dating for marriage was almost always solved only with the help of matchmakers. Matchmakers knew all their potential customers well. It was, first of all, about the age, about the material conditions of the marriage transaction, which were put forward by the parents of each side, and about the detailed composition of the dowry for the bride. The bride and groom were not present at the matchmaking as usual, but were only familiar from winter gatherings and summer youth festivities. Matchmakers, as a rule, were chosen from among respected respectable people who would not go into a pocket for a word. At the table, the mother of the bride served tea, pies, and jam. A joint meal is already, as it were, a symbolic beginning of the unity of the two genera. But the main thing here is the serious conversation of older, wise people about the family of young people, about their housekeeping opportunities.
In the modern wedding tradition, matchmaking is not only the acquaintance of the older generation on the part of the bride and groom, but also the discussion of a future wedding, the decision on material costs on both sides.
Wedding Preparation Plan
Not all young people know how long after an engagement they can marry. Previously, it depended on whether the dowry was ready, necessary, as was believed, to start a married life. Over time, it turned out that the dowry was not so necessary, and this custom disappeared. Now the marriage could be formalized even on the day after the decision, if not for the law by which it can be concluded after a minimum of one month. This period can be reduced only in one case: when the bride has at least four months of pregnancy.
Upon entering into marriage, the bride must decide which surname to take after marriage. Three options are possible: stay on girl’s, go to the husband’s surname and use double. The most practical, take the name of the husband.
As you know, the best holiday is one that is thought out and organized to the smallest detail. And how to do everything if household chores and work are combined with preparation for the wedding? So that at the last moment there are no unforeseen problems, you must act on a pre-compiled plan.
Two months before the wedding
- Visit the registry office - apply and choose the most suitable day for registration. If you live in Russia - the first day of receiving applications on a specific date - exactly two months before the planned wedding, if the registry office does not work on that day - the first working day of the registry office after this day.
- If you plan to draw up a marriage contract, pay a visit to the lawyer.
- Go through the bridal salons - look for a dress for the bride and a suit for the groom. If there is nothing suitable in the salons, then it’s time to have a good atelier and tailor.
- Choose a route for your honeymoon.
- Choose and order a hall where a banquet will take place, cars for a wedding procession.
- Make a preliminary guest list.
- Buy wedding invitations.
- Choose a host and coordinate with him a preliminary scenario of the wedding day.
- Choose witnesses.
One month before the wedding
- Buy wedding rings, shoes and accessories for the bride and groom, dress and costume.
- Order photo and video filming of a wedding celebration.
- To approve the program of the evening and the design of the banquet hall.
Two weeks before the wedding
- Book hotel rooms for nonresident guests.
- Visit a beautician, hairdresser and stylist to treat skin and hair. Do not forget to bring along a wedding dress and all the necessary accessories so that it is easier for the master to decide on the hairstyle. A good moment for a dress rehearsal of a dress and hairstyle.
- Start visiting the solarium.
- Order a wedding cake.
- Confirm the location of guests in the banquet hall.
One week before the wedding
- Order a wedding bouquet.
- To approve the number of guests and wedding men, the scenario of the wedding day and the route along which the wedding procession will move.
- Try on a wedding dress and shoes. At the slightest feeling of discomfort, it is better to give the shoes a stretch.
The day before the wedding
- Prepare rings and ribbons for decorating machines.
- Prepare all the necessary documents.
- Collect the bride’s handbag with the necessary cosmetics, perfumes, disposable napkins, etc.
- Confirm the time of the visit to the hairdresser and makeup artist.
Wedding Witness Duties
First of all, a witness and a witness must have a sense of humor, possess organizational and oratory abilities, and have the ability to quickly navigate in any situation. Witnesses must be unmarried and unmarried, age is as close as possible to the bride and groom, traditionally witnesses are chosen from close friends or relatives.
Duties of the witness
Before the wedding
- help the bride in choosing a wedding dress and accessories;
- assistance in organizing a bachelorette party;
- to think over and prepare a script for the ransom ceremony in advance;
- take on the decoration of the hall and cars.
- help the young get dressed and get in proper shape before the arrival of the groom;
- the first to meet the bridegroom with friends and conduct a ransom ceremony;
- after marriage, put your signature in the registration book (canceled in the Russian Federation);
- after registration, roll up the towel on which the young stood, and hand it over to the groom’s parents;
- when guests congratulate the young, the witness should help the bride to accept bouquets.
At the banquet
- to be close to the young;
- help the leader of the wedding celebration in organizing competitions, games, dances;
- Stay on holiday until the last guest leaves.
Duties of the witness
Before the wedding
- take care of buying a special towel, on which the young will stand during the registration of marriage;
- assistance in organizing a bachelor party;
- if the bachelor party is organized on the eve of the wedding, the witness must protect himself and the groom from excessive drinking;
- coordinate with the witness the main points of the ransom scenario, prepare the necessary candies, several bottles of champagne, fruits as ransom.
- come to the groom’s house in advance, help in the last pre-wedding preparations and accompany the groom to the bride’s house;
- prepare a small bouquet for the witness;
- before registration, spread a rushnyk, which young people will join;
- after marriage, put your signature in the registration book (canceled in the Russian Federation);
- make sure that none of the guests in the banquet hall of the registry office is deprived of champagne;
- think over the route of the trip after marriage registration, coordinate it with the photographer;
- take a few bottles of champagne on a honeymoon around town.
At the banquet
- the duties are the same as those of the witness, but one must not lose vigilance so that one of the guests does not seize the opportunity and steal the bride;
- if the bride was stolen, helps the groom look for and redeem her
Wedding is quite an expensive pleasure. Of course, if you take up the organization in advance and play it in the unpopular months, you may be able to save a little, but you still need to make an estimate in advance of the estimated wedding expenses. Just looking at it, you can clearly see how much the celebration itself can cost you.
Main expense items
- Bride’s clothes (dress, shoes, garter, stockings, veil, gloves, underwear, handbag, perfumery, cosmetics, jewelry, wreath);
- Clothing of the groom (suit, shirt, bow-tie or tie, shoes);
- The cost of the marriage ceremony;
- Flowers (a bouquet for the bride, a buttonhole for the groom, a bouquet for mother-in-law);
- Hairstyle, manicure, pedicure, makeup of the bride;
- Banquet, hall decoration, loaf, drinks and snacks for the duration of the trip;
- Gifts for guests;
- Photo and video;
- Rent and car decoration.
How can I save?
Ask your friends to take photos and shoot you on camcorder. Colossal savings! In the registry office, order a standard set of photos - graphs and a registry office film, as well as music. You have to have something professional in mind! For a banquet, you can try to find a hall in which they will be allowed to bring their products. You can also save on decorating the hall. If you are tense with money, do not tear from the skin and do not order 11-meter limousines. Opt for executive cars. As an option - the domestic "Volga". It is spacious. In the back seat can easily fit the bride, groom and witness. Do not try to wipe your nose at other weddings. Why do you need this?
What can not be saved?
Never save on your appearance (dress and accessory). Do not save on rings (you have to wear them all your life), on food and drinks - you should not give guests cheap vodka!
Choosing a host or host of a wedding ceremony
The main subtleties of choice
But so that later the host and its holiday program do not disappoint you and guests, the newlyweds must clearly understand what kind of wedding they dream of, how they want to see their holiday. It is desirable that these dreams have at least an approximate form, the style of the celebration. Either it’s a “reckless” fun party where everyone, as the song sings, “there was not enough heaven and earth”, or a traditional banquet where the entertainment program from the host will harmoniously combine with the music and communication of the guests, without pretending to be a sapper, the dynamic rhythm of the holiday. Or maybe your wedding is a “social event”, on which everything should be beautiful, elegant and stylish.
This, of course, is not all possible options for a wedding celebration; moreover, each wedding is individual and unique. Will your guests feel comfortable, relaxed, in a certain atmosphere, the rhythm of the holiday? If there is complete order and harmony with this question, then now is the time to begin an active search for the host.
If you have a presenter in mind, then you must definitely meet with him or at least talk on the phone. If the presenter does not insist on a personal meeting, then you either have a super professional who needs to hear a few phrases from a client, or, most likely, an amateur who is unprofessional in his work. It is at the meeting that you will understand how attractive the host is to you.
As for the entertainment program - much again depends on your wishes, but a good presenter should have his own program highlights - something that you have never seen or seen in this way. And finally, the thinnest point is the payment for the services of the presenter. You should beware of how surprisingly low, yet prohibitively high price. Behind the first, amateurs or those who take the first steps in this matter may be hiding. Too high a price often does not guarantee a high quality service, but rather speaks of a good marketing component in the work of the presenter and his success in finding customers. As a result, the choice is always yours.
Regardless of whether you like the ceremony or not, registering with the registry office is indispensable. It’s up to you to decide whether you sign quickly and without too much noise, or go through the registry office rooms and halls according to the rules. When choosing a registry office, you need to consider at least a factor such as the distance from the bride’s house. It is worth knowing in advance if there is a parking lot at the registry office and in general how things are with parking. Ask about the duration of the ceremony, ask if a live orchestra is playing or a tape recording sounds, ask to show the registration hall, etc. Of course, witnesses should deal with these issues. If they work hard, the ceremony will be more than pleasant for the bride and groom.
How to apply?
First of all, it is necessary to find out if there is already a queue that has already been formed on the Internet for submitting an application to the chosen registry office on the selected date. If you live in Moscow and want your marriage to be registered in the summer on Friday or Saturday - most likely, you will have to face the need to take a turn and be on duty at the registry office. But do not worry, the turn in the registry office itself is not a terrible thing, but rather fun :)
To apply to the registry office, you must first find out its details and pay the state fee. The easiest way to get a receipt at the registry office. Then, with a payment receipt and passports, go to the registry office, and, certainly, together. If before that one of you was married - you need a certificate of divorce from a previous marriage. There will be no more obstacles. In the registry office fill out the form. Decide on the date and time of the marriage and return home - wait for the solemn day and prepare for the wedding. In case of failure to appear for registration, the application shall lose its legal force; upon repeated appeal, it must be submitted again.
If you want to sign without ceremony, discuss this issue with the registry office.
What you do not need to do when traveling to the registry office?
To postpone the decision with photo and video shooting at the last moment. However, it should be remembered that the conditions and prices for these services offered by the registry office may surprise you a little. If you have "your" operator and photographer, you should find out in advance the problems that you may have if you refuse services imposed by the registry office.
Obsessively invite the registry office employees to celebrate a solemn event in a small room with champagne.
In any case, this is your wedding and if you approach the communication with the registry office employees from a position of goodwill, most likely they will meet you.
Choosing a Wedding Dress
Buying a wedding dress is one of the most enjoyable and exciting events in a series of pre-holiday hassles. The variety of models is so great that searches can drag on. In order not to waste time, experts advise to think over the main parameters of the wedding dress in advance, which will greatly facilitate the transformation of your dreams into reality.
When choosing a wedding dress, you need to consider many factors:
- the time of year for which the wedding is scheduled, because the season depends on the choice of fabric and such important details of the dress as the length of the sleeve, the depth of the neckline and much more;
- the degree of officiality of the celebration. The rules of etiquette strictly prescribe the form of clothing and norms of behavior for each reception. For example, a train - an indispensable attribute of a wedding dress for an official ceremony, which gives special solemnity to the holiday, is not appropriate for a wedding held in a narrow circle of relatives and close friends;
- features of the figure, which should be given due attention. Skillfully selected dress will help emphasize the merits of the figure and veil the flaws, if any, making your appearance even more spectacular and irresistible;
- many salons provide this type of service, such as sewing models according to the sketch of the customer or making changes to an already finished dress. It is very important not to lose a sense of proportion, and before placing an order, it is advisable that you seek advice from a fashion designer.
- Qualified expert advice will help to achieve the best result, rather than a “military council” of relatives and friends called to help. Do not invite the groom in search of a wedding dress. It’s not even a bad omen. Your appearance at the celebration in a fabulous, magnificent outfit should come as a surprise to him, a complete surprise, showing once again what a beautiful wife he got!
The choice is made. In the event that during the fitting it turns out that the model you liked doesn’t “sit” on the figure perfectly, do not be discouraged - the dress will be customized to your individual standards for free. If you decide to rent a wedding outfit, keep in mind that in this case they do not fit the figure.
In the wedding salon you can pick up all the necessary accessories: shoes, gloves, veils, orange blossom (floral branches in the hair) or a fashionable hat. Carefully selected, they will give a harmonious completeness to your image. Peering into your beautiful reflection in the mirror, you smile, anticipating the enthusiastic looks of the groom and guests and numerous compliments, because the range of models offered by wedding salons will satisfy even the most demanding and capricious bride.
Choosing a suit for the groom
In the shoulders, a good suit must sit like a glove, and at the same time you should not feel either constrained or too relaxed.
There should be no vertical or horizontal folds on the back, even if you stretch your arms forward. If the jacket has two slots, which is fashionable lately, then they should be closed when the jacket is buttoned. If your jacket is good on your shoulders and you fasten the bottom button with a strobe, in no case try to solve the problem by choosing a larger size. It is better not to rush to experiment with costumes of different stature and fullness.
Standing straight, hands down, grab the floors of the jacket. If you managed to do this without unnecessary body movements, it means that it fits your length. It is necessary to pay attention to the length of the sleeve - it should be shorter than the cuff of the shirt by a centimeter and a half. If your jacket is a bit wide or long sleeves, ask the master, who is usually in a good store, to adjust the suit to your figure and height.
The belt of classic trousers should always be on the waist line, and the lower part should cover the backs of the shoes to the middle. Particular attention should be paid to the length of the trousers. If it is chosen correctly, then on the arrow at the ankle one small hall is formed. It is best to buy pants with a hem that is not hemmed. Then you can easily choose the length you need, and the master in the store will fit them after trying on.
Classic trousers are hemmed with an inclination “on the heel” - so that they are one or two centimeters longer in the back than in the front.
Hairstyle and makeup
A wedding is another chance to reveal your personality, to show all the delights of your style. A new life must begin beautifully, brightly and unforgettably. If the bride will be married, then there are traditions that require the hairstyle of maximum simplicity and the absence of curls.
At the wedding, the bride can make a low bun or rollers. Hair should be combed back without parting or with a straight parting. Instead of curls around the circumference of the head, braid thin pigtails or twist locks from the temples and put them in a bundle. The basic principle is to create harmony between style and personality. To do this, it is better to contact a specialist who will create the image that will surprise, and perhaps even amaze everyone. The wedding hairstyle is important naturalness, tenderness, innocence and yet there is always a place for provocation.
Hairstyle for the bride should open the face as much as possible, while the hair retains the effect of movement. Also, makeup is one of the important nuances. It must be thought out in advance. Makeup emphasizes the individuality of each woman; he “illuminates” her face. Makeup should look light and transparent.
All attention is focused on the eyes or lips. Excessively catchy makeup adds age to the young bride.
Bachelorette party and bachelor party
The day on the eve of the wedding has always been devoted to the bride’s farewell to the house, family, friends. On this day, the bride and groom always went to the bathhouse. In the evening, a bachelorette party was arranged.
Such evenings are also common with the groom - the groom’s gatherings - the last evening in the men’s bachelor company. If the bride and groom want to be together on the eve of the wedding, then you can invite the groom and friends to a bachelorette party. However, until the end of the bachelorette party the bridegroom is undesirable to remain. At the bachelorette party or bachelor party they set the table with cold appetizers, serve coffee, tea. Sitting at the table is not necessary. The main thing is to have fun, arrange games, dances, etc.
Celebration on the eve of the wedding should not be long and tiring, do not abuse alcohol.
In Russia, a loaf was prepared for weddings, while many ritual rules were observed. Wedding loaf is decorated with complex dough patterns and twigs of viburnum, which since pagan times have been credited with mystic properties and which is a symbol of love. A symbol of family happiness - a wedding loaf - is baked by several women under the guidance of the godmother of the groom or bride.
When preparing a wedding loaf, you need to follow some rules.
- Kneading dough and loaf decoration is done only by a married woman. Moreover, it is important that she be happy in marriage and have good children. It is believed that this woman shares her family happiness with the newlyweds.
- Before preparing the dough, she should wash, wash her hands, tie her head with a scarf and put on a pectoral cross. When kneading the dough, it is necessary to read prayers (for example, “Our Father” and “Theotokos”).
- A married man should put the loaf in the oven, while he or others should also pray.
- A loaf is served after painting and wedding, meeting the groom with the bride, before sitting at the tables. Parents of the groom (mother holds a loaf on an embroidered towel) congratulate the bride and groom. Young thank parents and take a loaf.
Now it has become customary to bite off or break off pieces from a loaf - whoever has a larger piece will become the master in the house. The remaining loaf is cut (and, according to the rite, the child or the godparents of the bride or groom should cut the wedding loaf) and treat them to the guests.
Leaving a wedding without a piece of loaf is tantamount to absence from the wedding. As a rule, a piece of loaf was brought home and shared between those who were not at the wedding.
Before the bridegroom leaves the house for the bride, mother and father bless him with a home icon.
The father of the bride passes the bride’s hand to the bridegroom. After this, the bride and groom are blessed for marriage with the home icon of the bride’s parents.
Traditionally, cars are chosen for the wedding in bright colors, especially for cars of the bride and groom. Two cars of the same brand and the same color go well, but are slightly different in tone. In a wedding procession, red cars look out of place. If there is no choice, it is better to put them in the tail.
Typically, cars are decorated with colorful ribbons, bows, one huge bow, balls, rings with bells. Tapes give the car an elegant look, but they need to be able to combine in color to prevent grudges and bad taste. The most successful color combinations will be: raspberry, pink, red; three shades of pink; blue, pink, blue; blue, yellow, red.
Naturally, the ribbons are selected by contrast: light cars decorated with bright ribbons look more elegant, and dark cars decorated with light ribbons look nobler. Do-it-yourself roses can be attached to satin ribbons. Roses can be made in a different color so that they differ from the ribbon on which they are attached. You can place any number of roses on each ribbon. A rose requires a tape of medium width and a length of about 1 meter. 15 leave the tape to hang freely from the palm of your hand, wrap the rest of the tape around your palm (face out), until a piece of 20 cm remains free. end.
These ends will help to fix the roses on the ribbons. Do not forget that the number of tapes should be odd, usually 3 tapes.
Two intertwined rings are strengthened on the roof of the head machine, each with a bell with a bow tied to it. You can attach two wreaths of fresh flowers, berries, leaves, branches decorated with bows, small balls to the hood; in winter, set up a ready-made basket with artificial flowers. The main thing is that the cars look festive, so that everyone at the first glance at them becomes sensible - this is a wedding procession. And remember that the machines of the bride and groom should be the most beautiful and elegant.
Wedding procession, route
Usually the bride and groom usually came to church separately. Wedding processions, only from decorated passenger cars, are universally preserved in our time. As before, the bride and groom go to the registry office in different cars, and from the registry office to one. The wedding procession should consist of at least two cars. If there are a large number of people invited to the wedding ceremony, the number of cars in the wedding procession can be increased. Ordered cars drive up to the groom’s house. The groom comes for the bride to her house with a witness and friends. After the ceremony and the redemption of the bride, the wedding procession is sent to the registry office. In the first car, the bridegroom and the witness ride, in the second, the bride, witness, prostrates. Guests can get into these cars. Upon arrival at the registry office, the witness and groom are the first to leave, then they help the lady-bride and the bride to get out of the car.
There are no strict rules regarding who should be present at the wedding ceremony. Therefore, the bride and groom decide on their own who should be invited to register a marriage. As a rule, parents, close relatives and friends of the bride and groom are present at the registry office. However, the parents of the bride and groom can meet the newlyweds at home.
When a young couple is invited to the registration room, the groom leads the bride with his right hand under the left elbow, during registration they stand with a towel, spread by witness, which is a symbolic road of life together. After the bride and groom have signed the deed of marriage, they are solemnly declared husband and wife. As a sign of love and mutual fidelity, they exchange wedding rings that they put on the ring finger of the right hand. The husband puts the ring on the wife first, then the wife on the husband. First host congratulates the newlyweds, then parents, if they are present at the ceremony, close relatives and friends.
Having left the registry office, the newlyweds get into the first car of the motorcade. Guests attending the wedding are accommodated in the subsequent wedding procession cars.
The route of the trip is usually planned in advance. You can just make a car trip around the city. Often newlyweds lay flowers at the monuments. If time and weather permit, it would be nice to go out of town, and then go to the parents ’house (usually to the groom’s parents’ house), where they are already waiting for them and meet with a thrust. Her husband’s mother, with bread and salt, holding a traditional wedding loaf on a towel embroidered, a symbol of home welfare. Newlyweds break off or bite off a piece of the edge, dip the pieces into salt and eat them. Those gathered near the house of neighbors may demand that the husband “buy out” the road. This is the so-called marten. Keep this in mind and stock up on sweets, flowers and wine in advance. Then the newlyweds go into the room, where a table is set with champagne, sweets and fruits.
Gathered toast for a young couple. If the festive event is planned in the banquet hall, the young and guests are sent to the holiday.
The wedding ring is worn on the finger as a symbol of marital fidelity and marriage ties - "the ring has no end." The groom must take care of the rings. On the inner side of the ring, you can make an inscription of the name or initials and the date of registration of marriage. On the ring of the bride is the name of the groom, on the ring of the groom is the name of the bride. Many wear engagement rings in engagement on the ring finger of their left hand. The ring on the left hand is put on the right after marriage. On the day of the wedding, the rings are put on the hands of the young one who is registering the marriage, or first the bridegroom to the bride, then the bride to the bridegroom. The widows wear their ring and the ring of the deceased spouse on their left hand, divorced also on their left hand, but only their own.
Meeting young after the registry office
Now parents meet young people at the doorstep with parting words and wishes. If the parents of the young are divorced or widowed, either the godparents or the placed ones must meet the bride and groom - a happy married couple specially selected from among the relatives, suitable for their age.
The groom’s mother (mother-in-law) serves a young loaf of salt on a tray covered with an elegant painted rushnyk and asks to taste “the bread of the world and the salt of the earth”. Mother of the bride (mother-in-law) blesses the young with a family icon. This may be the image of the Virgin, Nicholas the Wonderworker or a saint - the patron saint of the family. The father of the bride (father-in-law) holds a tray with two glasses, and the father-groom (father-in-law) solemnly presents the bride with a letter stating that she is happily accepted into the family.
Young people bite off one loaf so that they have unity, advice and love in their family. And when they enter the house, they are sprinkled with rain from grain and hops so that they live richly. Perhaps the roots of this sign lie in the peasant beliefs of the Russian people-farmers, because rain carries life itself. Modern “rain” can consist of rice, millet, buckwheat - so that the family has a lot of kids like a spikelet of seeds; small sweets (suitable for dragees) - so that life is sweet; coins (small and light) - so that there is prosperity in the family; petals and confetti - so that the life of young people is beautiful and romantic.
The part of the table at which the young will sit should be oriented east. The place for the young must be chosen so that they do not appear at different tables, so that there are no gaps or joints between them. It is advisable that young people sit not on separate chairs, but on a common bench. If it is impossible to find a bench, then at least put down a general blanket, and a cover that has been turned inside out. If you put the young spouses at the table on a furry coat - their life will be rich and free. The most optimal is the L-shaped wedding table. In this case, the young should be planted at an angle (but in no case through the corner of the table), and representatives of their clans are seated next to each of them.
Next to the bride is her friend (witness, best man), and next to the groom is his friend (witness, best man). Following the witnesses, the godparents of the bride and groom sit down. Guests are seated in accordance with their age: in the red corner next to young people are young people, and the farther from the red corner, the older and older. The oldest people should sit at the opposite end of the table from the young ones.
- It’s not customary to give forks for weddings, spoons and knives. Such a gift is considered a bad omen.
- Things that are associated with an illness (a heating pad, medical jars, etc.) are not suitable for a gift.
- If the heroes of the occasion are too impressionable, it is better to abandon handkerchiefs, which supposedly dispose of tears and quarrels.
- A gift is always given wrapped up.
- If you decide to give the newlyweds money, then this should be a substantial amount. They give money in an envelope, opportunities in large bills, accompanying them with the words "on a life journey."
- It will be original if you give a bouquet of greenery, where instead of flowers money will be tied.
Any holiday, let alone a wedding, needs a relaxed atmosphere and various draws. It will be unusual and fun for the newlyweds to receive humorous gifts and souvenirs along with large traditional gifts.
Several options for such unusual playful gifts for the wedding:
- Long ruble
- The amount that you want to give is exchanged in small bills-
- Rami and glued with tape into a long tape.
- Rolling pin for bride
- So that the groom does not think that the wife will be weak and defenseless.
- And on the rolling pin there is an inscription: "Only with caress and care you meet him from work."
- Vacuum cleaner with trenches (and a guarantee - a broom)
- Photo album
- Instead of photos in an album to put notes.
- Socks (men) and neck scarves
- Groom - socks. Here are your little socks so that you have born sons!
- Bride - handkerchiefs. Here are some handkerchiefs for your daughters to be born!
- Carrots - for the bride
- Here is a carrot for you - so you love your mother-in-law.
- "Hedgehog" mittens (for the bride). To keep her husband in hedgehogs. To make these mittens is very simple: take large mittens for technical work, sew buttons to them with the needles up.
Photo and video shooting at the wedding, tips of a professional wedding photographer
Serious shooting is usually carried out with two cameras. It’s good to have a wide-angle zoom (20-35) on one, and a telezoom (70-200) on the other. The latter usually have to use more often. However, for the normal operation of the two devices need training. A photographer needs a flash at a wedding. Including on the street - there will be no time for turning the bride and groom in the direction of the sun or waiting for the sun to close with a light cloud!
It is worth asking the bride and groom and witnesses when signing not to stoop too low. If you do not have time to press the shutter, you should ask to take a double. Usually no one ever refused. It’s necessary to start shooting not from arrival or departure, but much earlier! From the moment you dress the bride. This is a whole performance with a fair amount of improvisation! Everything else is rather strictly planned and monotonous. In the registry office sometimes there are stairs. They are worth using - the whole group goes down the stairs after painting. Or after everyone has gone down and the photographer has stayed upstairs - to call out to everyone. Be sure to look into the rooms of the bride and groom before painting. They usually have mirrors. This is an additional opportunity for the photographer to improvise.
In the process of painting the newlyweds in the registry office for shooting, there are very few options:
- Everyone came in, standing and listening to what the registry office employee was telling them.
- Young people and witnesses are invited to sign.
- Young dress each other rings.
- Parents and guests congratulate the young.
- All exit first from the hall, and then from the registry office.
- Take a seat in the car.
It’s quite difficult to get normal pictures of the last action. Although, maybe this is not necessary… The general rule is that the photographer is always ahead. He is the first to enter the hall where they sign, and the first to leave it. Of course, this does not mean that everyone should be disturbed. It’s worth a closer look at how pros work in a registry office. They usually have places "shot" there. It’s not a sin to use them. It is advisable to use every opportunity to get at least some non-standard pictures. For example, once a couple got a car stuck after registration, and everyone pushed it out. This moment has not been missed. After the registry office, you need to get into the first seat of the car in which the newlyweds will go. At least not for long. There is a chance to get a memorable series of pictures of the bride with a bouquet. It’s worth asking the young to see togetherwhat they wrote in the marriage certificate. They themselves will be interested, and the picture can be interesting to get. Flash is required in the car! And, of course, a wide-angle lens. Zoom is desirable.
Second wedding day
In antiquity, the day after the wedding, traditionally only close relatives were invited. On this day, the young woman presented her new relatives. From the tray held by the bride and groom, she took gifts and alternately brought them in, first to her father-in-law and mother-in-law, then to sisters-in-law and girls, and then to everyone else. On the second day of the wedding, jokes about the young one began: she was forced to carry water, turning over buckets or closing the well, poured garbage and asked for revenge on the floor, etc. On the same day, the young with friends went to invite the father-in-law and mother-in-law to visit.
Before dinner on the second day, the young wife had to bake pancakes. This procedure in most cases was comic in nature. The young’s participation in it was often limited to the purchase of a cook or a traditional mother-in-law gift. Those present were treated with specially spoiled pancake, in which dough was mixed with coals, oats, chaff. Nevertheless, everyone praised the young one as a skilled cook and gave her money "troubles." “Selling” pancakes is now one of your favorite wedding jokes.
Many customs are lost, but some live. The second day of the wedding is mainly dedicated to honoring parents. They read poetry, congratulate them on new titles (father-in-law, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, father-in-law), give commemorative medals, they already shout "Bitterly!" Young people thank their parents, give them presents and ask permission from this day to call “mom and dad” husband - from the parents of the wife, wife - from the parents of the husband. The second wedding day can also begin with a poetic rite - “planting a wedding seedling” in honor of a young family.
Wedding is for guests, honeymoon is for young people. For a young couple, a honeymoon is a journey of a lifetime filled with long lazy days, champagne and romance. Happiness is to be near, to know the slightest nuances of each other and to change, reincarnate in order to make a loved one happy, and from this become the happiest person.
Young people have every right after several months of constant wedding troubles and excitement to escape from all that is unimportant and fleeting and enjoy their happiness. It doesn’t matter if you spend all day lying in the sun, walking or climbing mountains - the main thing is that there is no disagreement with your companion. And for this, one must clearly define how each person imagines a honeymoon before the trip.
First, decide where you would like to go. It’s better to choose a place you’ve never been before. Do not go to those places where you already had a rest with the previous partner. Your life together must begin with everything new and unusual. Decide how much time you can both spend on your honeymoon. Think about what you both want: to spend time together away from civilization or, conversely, to see the world. You can ask friends and relatives to recommend good places to stay where they have already visited, or to use the services of a travel agency.
Ancient wedding tradition
The wedding ceremony lasts about forty minutes. During this time, the young are standing, they are not allowed to sit down.
The sacrament of marriage is performed in the middle of the church before the lectern (a high table with a gentle upper board, for the convenience of reading the liturgical books lying on it or kissing the icon lying on it). The same women are on the right hand, and the bride is on the left. The priest in festive vestments leaves the altar through the royal gates (middle doors in the church iconostasis leading to the altar). In his hands he holds the cross and the gospel. Before the priest they take out and strengthen the candle. The priest puts the cross and the gospel on the lectern. The priest blesses them with the cross three times and gives the newlyweds hands burning candles as signs of conjugal love blessed by the Lord. Candles are not given if those who are married get married the second or third time, since burning candles are a symbol of purity and chastity.
It is believed that candles burn throughout the rite, so they should be long and massive. The rite begins with the priest waving his censer and smoking incense, and then reciting a prayer, after which prayers for those entering into church marriage begin. After this, the priest takes the rings from the holy throne and first puts the ring on to the bridegroom, overshooting him crosswise three times, saying: “The servant of God (name of the bridegroom) is engaged to the servant of God (name of the bride) in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.” Then he puts the ring on to the bride also with her triple overshadowing and says the words: “The servant of God (name of the bride) is betrothed to the servant of God (name of the bridegroom) in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit”.
After the blessing of the priest, the bride and groom change rings. The groom puts his ring on the bride’s hand in a sign of love and readiness to sacrifice all his wife and help her all his life; the bride puts her ring on the hand of the groom in a sign of her love and devotion, in a sign of readiness to accept help from him all her life. Such an exchange is made three times in honor and glory of the Holy Trinity, which performs and confirms everything (sometimes the priest himself changes the rings). Then the priest again prays to the Lord that He himself blesses and approves the betrothal. He himself overshadowed the position of the rings with a heavenly blessing and sent them an angel -guard and leader in new life. This is where the betrothal ends. The engagement used to be before the wedding, sometimes long. The betrothed kept the rings as a symbol of love and fidelity.You can follow the ancient tradition and get engaged in advance, or do it on the wedding day.
Both options are valid today. The bride and groom, holding lit candles in their hands - a sign of the spiritual light of the sacrament - solemnly pass into the center of the temple. A priest steps ahead of them. The bride and groom stand on a white or pink rug (rushnyk), spread out in front of the lectern. On the lectern, where the cross and the Gospel are already lying, the crowns are laid. The priest invites the bride and groom in front of the church and God to reaffirm their voluntary desire to marry. The priest turns to the groom: “Do you have a sincere and laid-back desire and a firm intention to be this husband (name of the bride), who you see here in front of you?” The groom replies: “I have, honest father.” “Aren’t you bound by the promise to the other bride?” “No, not bound.” Then, turning to the bride, the priest asks:“Do you have a sincere and laid-back desire and a firm intention to be the wife of this (name of the groom) whom you see before you?” “I have, honest father.” “Is it not bound by a promise to another bridegroom?” - “No, not bound.”
After this, the wedding rite begins — the mysterious consecration of the marriage by Divine grace. The wedding begins with the words: - Blessed be the Kingdom… After reading the prayers, the priest takes the crown, marks them crosswise of the groom and gives a kiss to the image of the Savior, attached to the front of the crown, with the words: “The servant of God (name of the groom), the servant of God (name of the bride, is married) ) in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. The priest also blesses the bride, letting her kiss the image of the Most Holy Theotokos decorating her crown, and says: - The servant of God (name of the bride) to the servant of God (name of the groom) in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit is married. Crowns can be worn on the head of the bride and groom or they can be kept above the bride and groom by a witness and a witness. There is no clear indication of this in church rules.Those who hold the crowns need to be very careful (especially when the priest three times walks the young around the lectern) so that they do not bend. The witness needs to ensure that the bride does not step on the train. The priest says: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” With these words, he blesses them on behalf of God. The priest pronounces this prayer exclamation three times and blesses the bride and groom three times. All those present in the temple should strengthen the priest’s prayer, repeating behind him, “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” The laying of crowns and the words of the priest: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor” - they seal the Sacrament of marriage. Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.The witness needs to ensure that the bride does not step on the train. The priest says: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” With these words, he blesses them on behalf of God. The priest pronounces this prayer exclamation three times and blesses the bride and groom three times. All those present in the temple should strengthen the priest’s prayer, repeating behind him, “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” The laying of crowns and the words of the priest: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor” - they seal the Sacrament of marriage. Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.The witness needs to ensure that the bride does not step on the train. The priest says: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” With these words, he blesses them on behalf of God. The priest pronounces this prayer exclamation three times and blesses the bride and groom three times. All those present in the temple should strengthen the priest’s prayer, repeating behind him, “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” The laying of crowns and the words of the priest: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor” - they seal the Sacrament of marriage. Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.The priest pronounces this prayer exclamation three times and blesses the bride and groom three times. All those present in the temple should strengthen the priest’s prayer, repeating behind him, “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” The laying of crowns and the words of the priest: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor” - they seal the Sacrament of marriage. Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.The priest pronounces this prayer exclamation three times and blesses the bride and groom three times. All those present in the temple should strengthen the priest’s prayer, repeating behind him, “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor!” The laying of crowns and the words of the priest: “Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor” - they seal the Sacrament of marriage. Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.Then he reads the lines from the epistle of St. Paul to the Ephesians and sings the prayer “Our Father”. She must be sung along with all the young.
As a sign of humility, the young bow their heads under the crowns. Then they bring a cup of red wine (cahors or sherry), above it the priest reads a prayer and blesses it. The wine bowl is first brought to the groom, and then to the bride. Newlyweds should take it in turn in three drinks to drink it in a sign that from then on they should live unanimously, sharing joy and sorrow together. The common chalice is a symbol of one destiny with only joys and sorrows. Drinking a cup to the bottom means sharing each other’s lives to the very end. The priest joins the right hands of the bride and groom, covers them with epitrachile (part of his robes), and on top - with his hand and three times around them around the lectern. The number “three” in the Old and New Testaments means the fullness of time, and walking in a circle is the eternal procession of the spouses, which began for them on the wedding day.
A marriage contract can be concluded at any time during the marriage, as well as before the state registration of marriage (in this case, it will enter into force only from the date of state registration of marriage). The contract must be concluded in writing and certified by a notary. The marriage contract may be amended or terminated at any time by agreement of the spouses. An agreement to amend or terminate a prenuptial agreement is made in the same form as the prenuptial agreement itself. In case of failure to reach agreement on the amendment or termination of the fixed-term contract, litigation is possible.
What can be written in the marriage contract
The spouses have the right to establish by a prenuptial agreement that their property is joint property (in the absence of an agreement, the property of the spouses is also recognized as joint), shared or separate. Any of these decisions can be made in relation to the entire property or its individual types.
In addition, in this way it is possible to divide not only already existing things, but also those that will appear in the future. Recognizing the property as joint property, the spouses thereby establish that they manage things together. The establishment of shared ownership of property provides the following possibilities: the fruits, products and income from the use of property in shared ownership are transferred to the common property are distributed in proportion to shares; in proportion to the shares, expenses are also incurred for the maintenance of the property; the spouse will have the preemptive right to purchase a share sold to an unauthorized person. The real (allocated) share of ownership of a particular property gives its owner the right to dispose of it at his discretion, without seeking the consent of the spouse when making any transactions.
If you bought shares in your name, you should not assume that you are allowed to dispose of them without taking into account the opinions of your half: if the marriage contract does not establish separate ownership of the registered securities purchased, then, according to the law, they will be considered joint property of the spouses. In a prenuptial agreement, one can define one’s responsibilities and rights by mutual content, ways of participating in each other’s incomes, and the procedure for each spouse to bear family expenses; determine the property that will be transferred to each of the spouses in case of divorce.
What should not be in a prenuptial agreement
Laws prohibit the marriage contract to limit the legal capacity or legal capacity of spouses. It is impossible, for example, to write in the contract that the wife does not have the right to work or accept an inheritance, or to establish enterprises. It is impossible in the contract to waive the right to appeal to the court for the protection of their violated rights. The Family Code establishes that the contract cannot regulate personal non-property relations between spouses, i.e. relations deprived of material content: choice of surname during marriage registration; choice of place of residence; the right to solve jointly all issues of family life; the right to divorce. The law traditionally regulates such relations in the most general way, confining itself to a statement of the equality of spouses in personal legal relations.
A prenuptial agreement cannot contain provisions regarding the rights and obligations of spouses in relation to children, including the determination of which of the parents the children remain in case of divorce. For this, there is an agreement on children. The contract cannot contain provisions restricting the right of the disabled spouse in need to receive maintenance - all these issues are regulated in detail by law.